The saddest thing about being self conscious is that it ruins lives. It actually becomes impossible to achieve even a fraction of your true potential and there can be nothing more heartbreaking than a wasted life. Fortunately, there are a few practical ways that you can use right away to remedy the situation and gain the self confidence you need to enjoy life and celebrate those achievements.
1. Zero In On The Source
Capture the awkward voices that go through your mind that cause your self consciousness. More often than not you will realize that they are linked to your past and to somebody. For instance it could be parents who put you down or a teacher who greatly humiliated you. In the process those self critical thoughts were forever planted in your mind and now tend to control your entire life leaving you so miserable.
Identifying those thoughts and where they originated from is a critical first step in dealing with the awkwardness in your life. Naturally you will need plenty of determination to face these damaging thoughts and realize that they are not true and you do not have to keep accepting them. You must talk back to them with the realization that although you cannot change your past, you do not need to live in it. There is a whole exciting, adventurous wonderful life in the present and ahead of you and you cannot get on it with it while still stuck in the miserable past.
2. Your Focus Should Be On Others
There is no way that you can focus on yourself and on others at the same time. This self focus is what creates self consciousness and the problems and awkwardness that come with it. Make the effort to shift the focus on those that you interact with and come into contact with every day. At the beginning this will require a huge effort but always catch yourself when the self conscious thoughts start flooding back and make the effort to switch your entire attention to somebody else. This is an important exercise that you must start and keep practicing all the time.
3. Fully Accept And Appreciate What You Cannot Control
Acceptance is important. It may not be positive but it is critical to appreciate that there will always be things that you cannot change and must live with. In any case even those bad things have their purpose in our lives. They make us stronger and help to build up our perseverance. Others over-compensate for them and end up in greatness. Accept yourself as you are and determine to love yourself despite it. Always remember that your flaws can be useful no matter how embarrassing and awkward they are.
4. Make The Effort To Talk To Strangers
Whatever it is in your life that makes you insecure talking to strangers as often as you can is a great way to start feeling comfortable. At the beginning it may be a herculean task to fulfill and if it ends up badly it will prove that you have still not started dealing with your insecurity. But never give up. Just keep working on it and when it starts to improve you will surely know that you are well on your way to healing and self confidence.
5. Talk About It
Psychiatrists earn millions of dollars from the therapy they give but when you really get down to thinking about it, most of what they do is to get people to talk about the stuff that is bothering them. It not only obviously works but it is an extremely powerful way of dealing with insecurity. The more you talk about something the less threatening it becomes. You can even go a step further and blog about it. Tell the entire world about it and you will be surprised at the results and the impact it has of ridding you of your nagging self conscious issues.
By using these tips, you will be able to no longer be self conscious and begin to live a happier and more fulfilling life.